Ok friends, I don’t want to lie to you, so I will admit....I am a huge fan of The Bachelor! There is just something about watching someone on their journey of love. The laughter, the tears, the romantic locations....it is all truly breath taking! As the season unfolds you begin to learn about the people on the show and start to cheer on your favorites and yell at the tv with each poor choice. It’s exciting and fun. A real fairy tale!
Real life though is a bit different. We spend so much of our life searching for the fairy tale that we don’t even realize that true love is not the imaginary fantasy we believe it to be. We get lost in the love department because of Disney movies, romance books, and reality shows that are far from reality.
For years I struggled with what Love should look like. I was fooled by all the propaganda that led me toward a life of lust, not love. I was lost. With no real healthy way of looking at what Love is.
But then Jesus.
I fell in love with Jesus at the exact right time. During the exact season I truly needed Him most. When I was lost and broken and trying to make love happen in every worldly way possible. Jesus took my mess and made it His masterpiece. He showed me what Love truly was.
I remember the first day I heard 1 Corinthians 13. I was 16 years old sitting in my local movie theater watching A Walk to Remember, when Mandy Moore’s character spoke these sweet words,
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” -1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV
My heart instantly was drawn to the sentiment and I can remember wanting to write that down to remember it. But I don’t think I ever let it sink into my heart. I never allowed the word of God to be the love song that led me to a healthy relationship.
But then Jesus.
There’s something so strong about always bringing it back to Him. To sit in the confusion and just muck of life, but to swing it back to Him. Our Lord and Savior. MY Lord and Savior.
Love to Jesus meant dying on a cross. It meant stepping into the uncomfortable and preferring the other first. To make your life a sacrifice for another. That’s what real love looks like.
When I met my husband, every unhealthy relational habit I had, changed. First of all, let me just encourage you ladies if you’re single, when a man comes along who lives their life according to the word of God, a man who truly loves Jesus, everything will be different (and so much better)!! My husband teaches me day in and day out what the true meaning of love is. After we were married a short while, I allowed the words of 1 Corinthians 13 to truly soak into my heart. Listen,
Love is patient.
Patient on the frustrating days. Patient when you can’t be in control of the situation. Patient with each other. And patient with God’s timing. Because God is ALWAYS patient with us.
Love is Kind.
Kind when your coworkers are all ragging on their spouses, you’re lifting each other up instead. Kind when they don’t do it “your way.” And kind when you realize you’ve hurt someone’s feeling. Because God’s kindness is lavished over us.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not envy when your spouse is given an amazing opportunity that you don’t have. It does not boast when you tried things your way and it went well. It is not so proud that you can’t apologize (even if you are not “in the wrong”). Because God is never rude or hurtful to us.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,
It uplifts the other person, even when you had a fight the night before. It prefers the other person in every moment, even when you want the decision to favor you. Because God ALWAYS uplifts and prefers us.
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
It is not easily angered even when your petty differences frustrate each other. It keeps no records of wrongs, even when the other person has gotten their way the past 10 times. The record is wiped clean. Because God wiped all of our records clean with His blood.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
Love is not lust. And I’ll say that again. Love is NOT lust. The second we get the two confused, we start to delight in evil. But Love rejoices in the Word of God!
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
It protects when everyone else says it’s completely harmless to still talk to an ex on Facebook or spend any sort of one on one time with the opposite sex. It trusts that you will both always be there for each other, even after you’ve been through a tough year of loss and sadness. It always has hope even when a family tragedy is desperately trying to tear you apart. And no matter what, it always perseveres, even when you feel like it just needs to end, you persevere together. Because no matter what, God will protect you, be trustful, He will give you hope, and He will persevere with you through it all!!
LOVE NEVER FAILS!
That means never! God will NEVER fail you so don’t fail on each other.
That is not a sort of love that the world portrays to us. It’s not a fairy tale love. It’s actually so much better then that!! It’s a love that will never fail you and leave you lonely. Even if you’ve been hurt in relationships before, Jesus’s love will always protect you and give you hope!
And that is the sort of marriage I want to be a part of! Love you friends!